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Sunday, November 21, 2010

Working outside the home is the right choice for me

Working outside the home is the right choice for me.

My decision to work outside of the home is the best choice for my family. As a working parent, I am able to provide a secure future for my family.

My family's finances benefit from the work I do. I am saving for my children's college tuition and other important expenses with my salary. I am able to responsibly plan for the future with my additional income.

I believe that my career is beneficial for my children's social development. Sending my children to pre-school, daycare, or leaving them with a Nanny has innumerable benefits for their social development.

In pre-school, my children are exposed to a variety of people and activities that I would be unable to replicate at home. My children are learning the skills they need to prepare them for school.

There are people better trained than I whom I can trust with my children's education. Staying involved in my children's class allows me to participate in their accomplishments.

I am a better parent because of my job outside of the home. Having a place to go and a change of scenery helps me appreciate what I have when I am home.

My work keeps me feeling useful, valuable, and intelligent. When I come home from work, I feel refreshed and better able to enjoy my family time. It is to my family's advantage for me to work outside of the home.

Today, I work because I want to. To me, the benefits of working outweigh the benefits of staying home. I am happy working outside of the home.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why do I work outside of the home? 2. How should I respond to criticism about my decision? 3. How do my children benefit from my career?

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Stepping back helps me to refocus

Stepping back helps me to refocus.

It is easy to get caught up in the game of life, so I take time to step back, away from the noise, and think. I pause at the fountain of life and refresh my soul.

When I step back, I can look objectively at my life. Removing myself from the busyness of life allows me to reflect on my priorities. I can identify talents to strengthen and successful areas that I might have overlooked.

When I get too busy and fail to take a break, I become emotionally charged and driven by my feelings. I feel as if I am becoming consumed by the tasks I must complete. Then I remember to step back so I can nurture the creative person inside of me, and all is well again.

Driving myself to constantly achieve, without a break, leads to exhaustion. There comes a point where I must place my well being ahead of my productivity. When there is too much on my plate, I compromise the quality of my work.

Stepping back helps me achieve balance. When I reflect on how I have been spending my time, I see areas that I am neglecting. When I step back, I am able to make a plan to pursue the dreams I may have put aside.

Today, I choose to take a break from the routine and reflect on where my life is headed. I am honest with myself about negative habits I can give up, skills I need to work on, and which areas are my strong points.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I living according to my values and priorities? 2. How can I shield myself from exhaustion? 3. Is it time to revise my plan for my future?

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Planning ahead saves me time and money

Planning ahead saves me time and money.

The average family wastes over $2000 per year due to lack of planning. Instead of being one of those families, my family saves money by living strategically.

At the start of the week, I plan my family's meals in order to maximize the use of my groceries. I choose meals with the same ingredients to prevent items from spoiling in the refrigerator and going to waste.

While planning the meals for the week, I use the Internet to find deals and printable coupons for the items on my list. Armed with a shopping list and matching coupons, I make better choices at the grocery store.

I am stronger than the pride that tries to prevent me from shopping for sales. Using coupons is fun because it is easy to do and saves me money. When I provide for my family's needs while saving money, I feel smart.

Each week, I also plan my family's activities so we can identify ways to best make use of our time as a family. I group car trips together in order to save time as well as money on gas.

My home is organized so I know where things are when I need to use them. The ability to find what I need with ease prevents me from purchasing items I already own simply because they are misplaced.

Today, I choose to pay attention to the small details of my affairs so I can identify areas where I can save time and money. I prepare my week in advance to refrain from wasting.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How can I make time to plan effectively for my week? 2. What three things can I do to save money that is currently being wasted? 3. What could my family do with the savings from being organized?

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Peace leads me

Peace leads me.

I follow the way of peace and run from the path of confusion. I have peace with every step I take. I may not always be certain about where I am heading, because I don't know everything, but I always trust my inner sense of direction.

I take risks without violating my peace. When I am uneasy about a situation, it means that I need to wait before making a decision. I would rather delay an action than take a wrong action. I stand still until peace leads the way.

I have a heightened sense of awareness of my conscience. When I hear my conscience calling out to me, I obey. My conscience is a gift placed in me by my Creator as a compass, to keep me headed in the right direction.

I am strong enough to do the right thing, even when I don't want to, because I have my emotions under control. I am in charge of the thoughts on which I allow my mind to dwell. Instead of living by my emotions, my emotions are subjected to my will.

Every decision I make must be approved by my conscience. Losing sleep and feeling regret are strong signals that something is wrong. When those signals begin to flash, I proceed with extreme caution.

I stop to do some honest self-reflection and guide myself back to a path that restores my peace. When I separate my rational brain from my irrational desires, I make better decisions.

Today, I choose to follow the path of peace. I separate myself from anything that causes confusion and I pursue clarity.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I at peace with my recent decisions? 2. Can I recognize the voice of my conscience in decision-making time? 3. Do I allow my emotions to lead me or do I follow peace?

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Patience sustains my center

Patience sustains my center.

My soul is at peace when my mind is settled and free from worry. Ridding myself of anxiety calms my emotions, allowing me to experience complete peace.

To have peace, I must let go of the things that are beyond my control. I exercise restraint when I would rather react. I wait instead of becoming tense because it is better to wait than to act hastily. I choose to exert self-control.

I am saturated by patience from the inside out, bringing peace to my core. Waiting is something I can do proficiently. Periods of waiting are simply temporary while better things are being prepared for me.

Keeping realistic expectations is the foundation to an attitude of patience. I know that, in reality, there are often complications or inevitable setbacks. Accepting that life is not perfect helps me to gracefully deal with trying situations.

I choose to have the attitude of a problem-solver rather than a victim. I make valuable use of my time finding answers and figuring out ways to help myself. I refrain from engaging in behaviors that do not produce a result, such as complaining.

I change what I can change, if not the situation, then my attitude about it. Either way, I am responsible for keeping my inner peace. Instead of over reacting out of bitterness, I allow patience to rule my actions, keeping my emotions in line.

Today, I choose to have faith that I can overcome any situation, just as I have done successfully in the past.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Are my expectations realistic? 2. How can I be more flexible in the face of challenges? 3. What are the benefits of waiting patiently?

Sunday, November 7, 2010

My positive attitude attracts quality friends

My positive attitude attracts quality friends.

My friends are gracious people who love me just the way I am. I feel good when I am around my friends. Spending time with my friends leaves me feeling a deep sense of happiness.

I am successful at forming valuable relationships through my positive personality. Unafraid to be myself, I let go of inhibitions and have a blast with my loved ones. Because I accept myself, others accept me.

My confidence draws people to me because I make them feel good about themselves too. I make it a point to look for the positive in everyone and highlight it. I forgive people's mistakes, just the way I want people to overlook mine.

I refrain from judging others because I am imperfect, too. I am a work in progress, learning from life's experiences. I am humble enough to understand that we are all works in progress - improving, yet unfinished.

Instead of focusing on my friends' shortcomings, I focus on what we have in common. Whether I look for something that separates us or something that draws us together, I know I will find plenty. Therefore, I choose to seek the positive.

I have the courage to eliminate the negative from my life. Not all the people who come into my life are positive influences. It is up to me to keep those who make me feel inadequate out of my life. I choose to surround myself with quality friends.

Today, I choose to exhibit a positive personality to attract other positive people into my life.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Whose company do I enjoy the most? 2. How do I feel after a night out with friends? 3. What changes do I need to make in choosing friends?

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

My peace endures through the storm

My peace endures through the storm.

When I am in the midst of the storms of life, my peace enables me to prevail. My peace is everlasting.

The harder life gets, the more I abandon my selfish desires and let the hands of peace carry me. In the hands of peace, my need to be right melts away. Pride is replaced by a desire for harmony.

It is easy to be at rest when the sun is shining. When the clouds begin to roll in and darken the day, I need my inner sense of calm to take over my emotions.

When anger brews within me due to an injustice, peace is like a soft blanket covering me. I breathe deeply and allow tranquility to overtake me. My emotions are balanced and in order. Challenging situations are futile against me because I am well prepared.

Instead of waiting until I am in the middle of a storm to desperately search for serenity, I actively engage in harmony on a daily basis. I exercise my muscles of peace by thinking before I act. The longer I calmly reflect on a constraint, the less challenging it becomes.

In the heat of the moment, there are issues that feel bigger than what I can handle. In those instances, stress creeps up slowly to steal my peace. Pausing to breathe and think helps me to calm down and keep things in perspective.

Today, I choose to stay calm, especially in the middle of the storm, by giving myself time to withdraw from the situation and put things in perspective.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I practice peace on a regular basis? 2. What happens to my emotions when I give myself time to calm down? 3. Why is it important to remain calm instead of allowing myself to become overwhelmed?

Sunday, October 31, 2010

My inner beauty is evident to those around me

My inner beauty is evident to those around me.

True beauty is intangible and indescribable, yet one hundred percent evident to the naked eye. A person's beauty is not the same as a person's appearance. Beauty is found much deeper, in matters of the heart.

The inner beauty inside of me is reflected through my confidence. I am beautiful just the way I am. My self-assurance prevents me from becoming overly concerned with the opinions of others.

When others look at me, they see that there is something about me that makes me beautiful. Perfection is not what sets me apart, confidence is.

When I accept myself the way I am, I open the door of acceptance and the ability to honor others the way they are, too. Confidence is the bridge that takes me out of a judgmental place to the land of grace.

I have such a clear understanding of the purpose for which I have been created that insecurity stays far from me. Understanding who I am gives me the boldness to carry myself with pride and grace.

My face always wears a genuine smile reflecting the joy in my heart from knowing who I am. The eyes may be the windows to the heart, but a smile is the window to the soul. Through my smile, people can feel the love in my soul.

Others can see true beauty in me by the way I speak to them. I choose my words carefully, making sure that I am respectful to those around me. My speech is filled with fairness and truth.

Today, I radiate beauty through my speech, actions, and smile. I draw beauty from my self-confidence and spread it to those around me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What sets me apart from others? 2. Am I pursing the right kind of beauty? 3. Do I live a life free from judgment?

Friday, October 29, 2010

My ability to love is more powerful than the pain of an offense

My ability to love is more powerful than the pain of an offense.

Love is the most powerful feeling that I could ever experience. Love is stronger than hate. Love is stronger than pain.

I love those who have hurt me. Loving others doesn't mean that I approve of their offense. Rather, it's simply my way of preventing bitterness from taking root in me and destroying me from the inside out. An offense hurts, but bitterness destroys, that is why I choose to love and forgive.

When another person hurts me, love reveals to me the hurt inside that person. People who hurt others are often hurting even more themselves. Through love, I can see that person differently and, rather than just forgive them, I can actually begin to feel love for them.

When someone hurts me, love causes me to pray for them. When I pray for another, my feelings toward them transform to feelings of care and concern.

To be able to love someone past the hurt, I first evaluate their intentions. People are not perfect and sometimes do things they don't mean to do. In those instances, I am gracious and humble enough to accept people just the way they are.

There are some people who are hurtful on purpose. Those people are the hardest to love, but they are the ones that need the most love. Instead of stepping down to their level and engaging in immature behavior, I choose to love them anyway.

Today, I choose to love others regardless of how they treat me. My heart is free from the chains of bitterness that try to trap me. Offenses have no authority over my heart.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why do people hurt others? 2. Why is it important to choose love over hate? 3. How can I overlook an offense?

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Living an active lifestyle keeps me healthy

Living an active lifestyle keeps me healthy.

My body is aging, but there are habits I can form today to keep me young. Regardless of my current age, body type, and weight, I am well able to maintain a healthy lifestyle because I owe it to myself.

Staying active shields my body from diseases and allows me to live life to the fullest. A high level of activity improves my overall physical and emotional health by increasing my body's natural production of endorphins. I am ready to live my best!

My time has come to eliminate excuses. I am committed to living a better life from this day forward. I make changes to my lifestyle today so I can better enjoy my life, including my family, in the future.

The adjustments I am making to my routine allow me to stay healthy and strong. I am free from the exhausting effects of idleness. I am able to interact with my loved ones with high energy.

To ensure success, I set goals for myself. I have written goals for where I want to be 3 months from now, as well as long term goals.

In order to stay on the path to success, I think of all the things that have gotten in my way in the past. Armed with a plan of attack, I prepare myself to overcome those obstacles. I envision myself reaching my ultimate goal.

Today, I choose to launch myself into a better life by increasing my physical activity. Engaging in even the simplest form of activity brings me one step closer to a lifestyle of high energy.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What are the benefits of a healthy lifestyle? 2. Why should I take care of my health? 3. How do I feel when I exercise?

Monday, October 25, 2010

Keeping my marriage strong is the main component to raising a happy family

Keeping my marriage strong is the main component to raising a happy family.

The recipe to a delightful family begins with a healthy marriage. Other ingredients, such as love, patience, and flexibility, have their place, but ultimate success lies on the strength of my marriage.

My children learn so much about life from watching my interactions with my spouse. They learn about teamwork from watching us help each other tackle chores and responsibilities together.

My children are learning how to treat others from the way I treat my spouse and the way I allow my spouse to treat me. From our example, my children are learning to be kind in words and actions toward others.

I teach my children to establish high expectations for how others are to treat them, based on how my spouse and I interact. I respect my spouse as a teammate and partner.

My spouse and I cooperate with one another. Through thick or thin, I stand by my spouse until the end. We learn life lessons together and work toward building a happy family together. The way I relate to my spouse makes my children feel safe.

When I focus on my marriage, other relationships fall into place. My children and spouse have their own place in my life without having to compete for my affection.

My spouse is my top priority; then, together, the two of us regard our children as our top priority.

Today, I choose to put my marriage first to ensure that, with the help of my spouse, I am raising a happy family.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How are my children affected by the way my spouse and I interact? 2. What improvements can we make to our marriage to help us raise happy children? 3. How can I strengthen my marriage?

Thursday, October 21, 2010

I have the strength to run a successful business from home while also caring for my children

I have the strength to run a successful business from home while also caring for my children.

I am an amazing person who gets to enjoy the best of both worlds. Not only do I work my dream job, I also have the privilege of spending my days with my children.

Life can get hectic between kids, business, and home concerns, but I am able to balance it all with grace. I devote time to my children, take care of my home, serve my clients, and also take time out for myself.

Balance is the key to my success. I take life one day at a time. I keep an organized schedule to stay on track. Planning schedules is a mountain that I can surmount with ease.

As a parent, I spend quality time making memories with my children. I educate my kids through books, movies, outings, and hands-on experiences. I plan play dates for my children to socialize with other kids while I enjoy the company of my friends.

As a business owner, I separate my business from my home responsibilities. My children come first in everything I do. My clients know and respect that my family is my top priority. My business is booming because I am passionate about what I do.

There is never a dull moment around me. I feel blessed beyond measure, and I know that blessing is to be paid forward.

Today, I enjoy the fullness of my life. I take full advantage of every opportunity by eradicating idleness and I maximize the use of every moment.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How do I balance home life with business life? 2. Am I willing to ask for help when I feel overwhelmed? 3. What do I love most about my life as a work-at-home parent?

Monday, October 18, 2010

I do more than search for peace I create it

I do more than search for peace; I create it.

I am at peace with others. I seek every opportunity to spread harmony to those around me. Instead of searching for the perfect location or the perfect time to get away from the noise, I create peace for myself right where I am.

Sometimes, I think that if I could only beat one more deadline, or if the kids would stay asleep one more hour, then I would be able to rest. The truth is that life hardly ever comes with built-in breaks between responsibilities.

If I want to enjoy rest and relaxation, then I must create it. My state of peace begins in my mind. When I close my eyes, ignore my surroundings, and envision myself in the arms of peace, I can take myself there.

My ride to work could be a chaotic time of rushing through traffic and intense tension about being late, but I choose to leave my house on time and use my morning commute to listen to easy music and meditate.

The time I spend in my car is a time for me to clear my head by envisioning the blessings that I intend to attract that day.

I may not get to go to a spa, beach, or desert to meditate, but I can connect with my inner-self right where I am.

A shower can easily turn into a beautiful time to release stress by singing. As I clean my physical body, I also cleanse my mind of all the emotional pressure I carry.

Today, I choose to create peace by turning mundane daily activities into opportunities for stress relief.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How can I turn a mundane daily task into a peaceful moment? 2. Can I identify time in my day where I can create rest and relaxation? 3. Do I wait for peace to come to me, instead of actively creating it?

Saturday, October 16, 2010

I delight in staying home with my children

My choice to stay at home with my children is something I am proud of. Although draining at times, I am committed to doing the best job I can at raising my children.

My calling as a parent is to nurture my children socially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. For me, staying at home is the best way to fulfill that purpose. My life's devotion is to foster a healthy home for my whole family.

I am grateful for the blessing that I have to spend my days watching my children flourish before my very eyes. I am present in my children's lives to witness every new accomplishment. I celebrate their triumphs and help them overcome constraints.

Staying home gives me the opportunity to teach my children about life just the way I want to. I am able to pass on family ideologies and spiritual beliefs to secure their identity.

I appreciate my spouse's support for my choice to stay home. My spouse works hard for me to have the privilege of staying home. While my spouse works hard outside of the home, I work hard at home to teach our children.

I am accountable for the time I have at home. My time is spent on educational activities and outings with the kids. I refrain from wasting time on idleness. The television, computer, and even household chores, fall second to taking care of my children.

Today, I celebrate my ability to stay home. I am free from guilt about not having a full time job outside of the home because staying home with the children is a full time job of its own.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I ever feel guilty about staying home? 2. How can I maximize my time at home with my children? 3. Why do I love staying home with my children?

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

I complete myself

I complete myself!

There are many stereotypes about the single lifestyle. However, I am proud that my life avoids stereotyping. I am single by choice.

I enjoy being single because I answer only to myself.

I choose how to spend my money without the need to consult with someone else.

I distribute my time as I please.

I keep my home as I like it without worry that my decor or cleanliness is not up to par with the expectations of a partner.

I value that I am able to live life on a whim.

I love the freedom of making my own decisions without having to ask someone for consent or worrying about their feelings.

Unlike many other single folks, I avoid spending my time searching for "the one." I am perfectly content living my life singly. I am not looking for a missing piece to my puzzle because my puzzle has been long solved; I complete myself!

If the time ever comes to devote myself to someone, I will only choose a person that complements my personality. I refuse to change my personality or appearance for someone else, because I am perfect just the way I am.

Today, I embrace the single life. I cherish my time alone. I socialize with friends regularly and value the privacy within my own home.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I feel social pressure to find a partner? 2. What have I learned from my past relationships? 3. What are the benefits of being single?

Saturday, October 9, 2010

I choose to focus on all that is good around me

There are two ways to look at every situation in life. I choose to focus on the brighter side of things, instead of the negative. I accessorize myself with a cheerful smile rather than a critical eye.

When I look at others, I try to see them the way they hope to be seen. Small nuisances in others' personalities are easy for me to ignore. I focus on the good in others and overlook their imperfections.

I am refreshed when I sit down to do an inventory of my blessings. Looking at my family, health, and friends helps me realize how fortunate I am. The more I look for things to be appreciative about, the more I find.

Even on my worst day, I consider myself fortunate because my life is filled with things money cannot buy. The simple things in life are what make my life great.

Choosing to be positive is a conscious choice I make daily so I can keep my soul unpolluted by judgment and bitterness. When I have a rough day at work, I am thankful I have a job that provides for my family. Positivity is about perspective.

I surround myself with other positive people so that their cheerful attitude rubs off on me. Keeping company with optimistic friends encourages me to seek out the good in times when I want to have a pity party.

Today, I choose to be grateful for what I have. I fill myself with cheer by rejecting every impulse to criticize. I do away with judgment and embrace the code of forgiveness.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Who is my most optimistic friend? 2. What is going well in my life right now? 3. What are some things I need to see with a different perspective?

Friday, October 8, 2010

I can only do so much with my time

There is only so much I can do in a day. My time is valuable and quite limited. For this reason, I am very selective as to which activities and responsibilities I choose to take on.

I realize that it is impossible to be everything to everyone. Stretching myself too thin leads to disappointment for everyone involved.

I prioritize my time in this order: family, career, personal time, and socializing.

Above all else, family comes first. If I must choose between attending my son’s football game and putting in overtime at work, you bet I will be sitting on the bleachers! The time I spend with my family is priceless!

My motto is "delegate, delegate, and delegate some more!" If others can do a task just as well as I, then I let them handle the job.

My children take care of the dishes, laundry, tidying up their rooms, and cleaning up after themselves. I feel confident about giving them these responsibilities. It prepares them for the adult life.

If I am very strapped for time, I know that I can call in a housekeeper to do light cleaning and go grocery shopping. This shaves off hours from my to-do list!

I outsource simple work-related tasks to a virtual assistant. Again, this allows me to prioritize my schedule and free-up much needed hours of my time.

My time is valuable. I can only do so much with my time. Therefore, I enlist the help of others to maximize my reach.

Today, I put my pride aside and ask for help when necessary. Though I would like to think I am bionic, I accept that I am simply human.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Which activities can I painlessly remove from my schedule? 2. How can I spend more time with my family? 3. Is my job too demanding?

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

I am taking up a new sport

I am determined to maintain my body in good health by getting regular exercise. The benefits I reap from exercising are worth the hard work. I enjoy a higher level of energy and a better overall health by actively participating in fitness activities.

I am taking up a new sport to keep myself interested in physical fitness. Being physically fit is a priority for me. Sports are a great way to make exercise feel like fun, instead of a burden.

When I exercise, I like to have a good time without feeling pressured. That is why I am choosing a sport that suits my personality. When I am successful at my new sport, I celebrate my accomplishments.

To discover what sport I want to pursue, I try a wide variety of activities. I ask my friends who are athletes for ideas and I keep myself open to their suggestions.

I am willing to try water sports, ball sports, dances, team sports, individual sports, or any other type of physical games. My goal is to have fun while doing something beneficial for my body.

While discovering a new sport, I often uncover new abilities stored within me. There is so much about me that I am looking forward to unveiling through practicing new sports.

Today, I choose to get myself in the game with a new sport. I lay fear and apprehension aside to launch myself forward with passion.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What new sport would I like to try? 2. Why is it important to stay physically fit? 3. What hinders me from pursuing a physically fit lifestyle?

Monday, October 4, 2010

I am surrounded by a caring parent support group

Everywhere I go, I run into people who are eager to offer their help. From the doctor's office to the nearby playground, I can reap the wisdom of experienced parents. I feel blessed to have such a large selection of resources.

Parenting is challenging regardless of my child's age. I also realize that every child truly is different. Yet, when I open myself up to other parents, I gain more than just knowledge; I gain friends.

Whenever I find myself facing a challenge, I am quick to speak up in order to find someone who has had a similar challenge. I listen to the advice of experienced parents and draw from their wisdom.

If I feel lonely or just want some company, I know who I can call. There are other parents waiting by the phone, wishing someone would invite them on an outing. I take the initiative to plan gatherings for other parents.

I am surrounded by a community that cares about my children and me. People who offer their advice are simply trying to prevent me from repeating some of their own mistakes. I value the input of others.

Fear and shame are absent from my heart because there are countless parents who have struggles just like mine. The more I search, the more I find that the struggles I experience are very common.

Today, I choose to embrace the caring support group available to me. I welcome others into my life and benefit from what they have to offer.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What keeps me from reaching out to other parents? 2. Who has helped me in the past that I can I talk to when I need support? 3. What do I have to offer to other parents?

Thursday, September 30, 2010

I am creating an atmosphere of helpfulness in my home

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I teach my children to be helpful by setting an example. I help my children clean their rooms and pick up after themselves. When I help my children, I do it with a smile.

I refrain from giving my children mandatory commands in order to teach them to help out of love. Instead, I politely ask them for their help. My children help at home because they feel like they are part of something great.

The motive behind my children's assistance is sincere care and concern for the well being of our household. Neither pressure nor fear plays a role in motivating my children to help.

When my children need help, they ask for it with the confidence that someone will come to their aid. I am teaching my children that keeping our home tidy is everyone's responsibility.

I am fostering a heart of service in my children by teaching them that it feels good to help, even if they did not participate in creating the mess. Doing something for yourself is a responsibility; doing something for others is a pleasure.

It is important to me that everyone in my home helps out as much as they can without limiting themselves to simply doing their fair share. The character traits that my children exude are selflessness, helpfulness, and sincere care.

Today, I lead my family by example. I offer my assistance when someone is in need and watch others do the same for each other. The atmosphere in my home is peaceful because I have created a place where everyone loves to help.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How much do my children help around the house? 2. Do I help my children when they need me? 3. What can I do to promote a spirit of selfless service among my family?

I am above jealousy

I am above jealousy because I trust my partner. I know my partner loves me dearly and is respectful of our relationship. We are by each other’s side through thick and thin.

When unfounded jealousy tries to creep in and eat away at the trust we have built, I abolish the thought before it even begins to take root.

I am confident in myself and let go of any expectations for my partner to cut off all ties with the opposite sex. That is unhealthy and unnecessary in a relationship built upon trust.

My partner has friends of both sexes, just as I have friends that are male and female. As much as we love spending time together, we have social lives outside of our relationship.

I let go of any worries about others becoming attracted to my partner. Although the emotions of others are out of my control, I have total faith in my partner's ability to fend off unwanted advances.

I know that my partner respects the boundaries of our relationship and intentionally avoids anything that could cause me pain.

I understand that it is alright to feel jealous from time to time. In fact, a small amount of jealousy is perfectly healthy. It shows that we are still in love and our fire is burning strong! I brush away these fleeting feelings of jealousy with a laugh.

Today, I release myself of unfounded jealousy. I am secure in myself and my relationship.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I have valid reasons to be jealous? 2. Does my jealousy stem from insecurity? 3. Am I overly controlling and suspicious in my relationships?

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

I age with grace

Age is much more than just a number. It is a badge of honor that I wear with pride. I am well into adulthood and have attained a successful career, a beautiful home, and built a wonderful family. Best of all, I answer only to myself. I call the shots in my life!

Each wrinkle and fine line that appears on my face, I wear with delight. Wrinkles and lines are a sign of wisdom and endurance. Why would I want to hide features with such beautiful meaning?

I age with grace. I have hope for the future and look forward to many more moments of maxing out each minute I spend on this grand Earth.

I wake up each morning with just one goal in mind: to enjoy the precious gift of life.

My spouse is my fruit of life: my partner, best friend, and my fountain of youth. The laughs we share in one afternoon can reverse a decade worth of birthdays.

I look back at how I worked my way to success and can blissfully enjoy the fruits of my labor. My years allow me to achieve a level of happiness that I could only imagine when I was younger.

Today, I admire the person that I have become. I fought a long battle to get to this stage of my life. It would be a shame to undermine my hard work in pursuit of "looking young."

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why am I uncomfortable with aging? Is it the physical or emotional aspect that scares me? 2. What can I do to maximize the joy I get out of each day? 3. Have I achieved the goals I had throughout my youth?

Monday, September 27, 2010

I accept the situations I cannot control

The only person I can control is me. I let go of my tendency to try to control the opinions and decisions of others.

Just as I expect to have the right to express my own opinion, I must accept the fact that others may disagree with me from time to time.

At times, I wish I could take charge of a situation or control the outcome, but I know that is often outside of my control.

Nothing positive can come from agonizing over something that is out of my control. When the outcome is in the hands of someone else, all I can do is hope for the best and plan for the worst.

While I accept the situations that I cannot control, I actively seek solutions to the ones I can.

Family disputes are within my control. Work-related troubles may sometimes be within my control. However, political hardships or the behavior of another person are outside my area of control.

For my own sanity, I relinquish my grasp on situations that I have no say in. Unexpected incidents are a part of life. When life throws me curveballs, I handle them graciously.

When I am given lemons, I make fresh, tasty lemonade. And if that does not satisfy me, I make lemon pie! One way or another, I find a viable solution to my challenges.

There is always a positive aspect to every negative situation. By removing my emotions from the situation, I can begin to see things in a new light.

Today, I understand that certain situations are out of my control. The only person I have power over is me.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I controlling because I do not trust others to handle things correctly? 2. Is my opinion overbearing? 3. How can I improve the situations I can control?

Sunday, September 26, 2010

I accept the changes in my body from carrying a baby

My body is an amazing instrument. I am humbled by my body's natural ability to carry a child and I am proud of myself for going through the process.

The image I see in the mirror today is very different from the person I was a few months ago. When I look at myself, I see a work in progress. I reject the voices of self-criticism that try to speak to me.

I embrace the place where I am. Every woman carries differently and has a different journey to her new body because we are all different. I am unique. My body is unique. My journey is unique.

I am taking care of my body by making healthy choices and concerning myself with my safety before my looks.

I refrain from looking at other women and comparing my body to theirs. Instead of focusing on my body, I focus on the blessing that I gained from this experience. My new miracle is worth the changes in my body.

When I look to the future, I am hopeful. I accept that it takes time for my body to adjust after carrying a baby. I also accept that my body is going to be different than it was before my pregnancy.

The people who love me do so regardless of what my body looks like. There are women in my life who understand what I am going through and how I am feeling. I reach out to those women because I can trust them to give me heartfelt advice.

Today, I accept my body just the way it is. I eliminate worry from my mind by focusing on the thing that matters most: my new family.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I making healthy choices with my body? 2. How can I be more patient toward myself? 3. Who can I reach out to for support?

Friday, September 24, 2010

Healthy eating revitalizes my lifestyle

Reaching for unhealthy foods is convenient. Punching a button on the vending machine or pulling into a drive thru is certainly far more appealing than cooking halibut or chopping vegetables, especially when I am hungry and hurried.

On the other hand, preparing healthy meals is time consuming, but it is certainly worth the effort.

My health is important to me. It takes precedence over the convenience of 5-minute meals. Convenience always comes at a price. In this case, the price I’m paying is sacrificing nutrition and playing Russian roulette with my health!

Healthy eating revitalizes my life! My good health enables me to play with my children, keep my physique in good shape, cut down on medical expenses, and increase my lifespan.

I would be a fool to pass up all of these benefits in favor of a quick burger or a bar of chocolate! For this reason, I make it a point to cook healthy meals and make conscious decisions when it comes to snacks.

Healthy foods taste better, fresher, and more wholesome than unhealthy foods. Eating healthily also provides me with a sense of empowerment.

Being busy is no longer an excuse. There are millions of individuals that manage to check off every task on their to-do list and still sit down for a wholesome meal three times per day.

My body is a temple and I treat it like my most prized possession!

Today, I change my life one granola bar at a time! I value my well being and consume healthy meals to fortify my body and soul.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I rely on food as an emotional escape from reality? 2. How many calories do I consume each day? 3. Is my calorie consumption on par with my caloric needs?

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Giving to others makes me rich

Giving to others has benefits from improving my self-image to creating a better world. I feel good about myself when I give to others because I see an admirable, loving side of myself.

I grow by giving. Selflessness is birthed within me each time I give, performing a remarkable transformation on my overall being. Giving makes me rich with happiness.

My giving sets an example for my children, family and friends to do the same. When I give, I start a ripple effect that expands from those closest to me and reaches people I do not even know. Giving makes me rich in love and grace.

A single act of giving can change the lives of more people than I would ever know. Each time I give, I bring my world one step closer to complete harmony. Giving makes me rich in peace.

The more I give away, the more I have. I am like a cup that automatically fills up again every time I pour some out. When I share my blessings, I receive more blessings in return. Giving makes me rich in the things that matter most.

Giving to others has a powerful effect on my life. My mood is positively affected each time I give. When I see the expression on others' faces and try to imagine what they are going through, I am rich with gratitude.

Today, I am rich in every area of my life because I choose to share my blessings with others.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Why is it important to give? 2. Who should I give to? 3. When was the last time I shared my blessings with others?

Friday, September 17, 2010

Experience is making me a better parent

Although I read many books in preparation for becoming a parent, experience is making me a better parent every day. The book of reality is my greatest teacher. I embrace my life lessons with humility.

Every day, I am gaining knowledge from the mistakes I make. Sometimes, things turn out differently than I hoped. I learn from those moments and apply their lessons to my future behavior.

I am humble enough to apologize to my children when I react in a manner that is inappropriate. My children are discovering that, although I am not perfect, I am someone worth imitating.

As the kids get older, I look back with clarity and see areas that I can strengthen. I offer my advice to younger parents who seek it. Sharing my experiences with others saves them from making the same mistakes I made.

Over time, I am becoming slower to anger and quicker to forgive. I have such a powerful inner sense of peace that I am able to overlook offenses, exercising patience with others.

I am learning that time goes by so fast that I must hold on to every moment I can. I live in the moment and enjoy my children just the way they are.

With experience comes the clarity to distinguish those things that are worth dwelling over and those which are best forgotten. Experience increases my ability to take life in stride without allowing anything to steal my joy.

Today, I choose to embrace the lessons that life teaches me and apply them to my future behavior.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What lesson have I learned from my children lately? 2. Am I slow to anger and quick to forgive? 3. How can I turn mistakes into powerful lessons?

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Choosing to nurse my baby is the best for my family

I am confident in my ability to make decisions for my family. My decision to nurse my baby is my choice. Regardless of what others think or say, I know I am doing what is right for my family.

I stay up to date on the latest research about babies and families by reading books, magazine articles, and information on the Internet. Talking to other moms also helps me gather information to make my own decisions.

Due to my thorough research, I am convinced that nursing is the right way for me to go. My family respects and supports my decision.

Nursing can be difficult at times, but I am determined to stick with it until I become proficient at it. Armed with knowledge and the tools I need to succeed, I take it one day at a time.

I am willing to change my diet in order to increase my milk supply. I am also willing to change my diet if something I eat causes my baby any discomfort.

I know where I can go to find help from a lactation consultant or other professional. There is a support group in my town that can assist me if I run into problems.

Nursing is a beautiful bonding time between my baby and me where we get to connect in a very special way.

Today, I choose to nurse my baby because it is the right choice for me. I am free from the pressure to impress someone else, and I support other moms who choose not to nurse.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. How do I feel about nursing my baby? 2. What are the benefits of nursing? 3. How can I ignore criticism and feel confident about my choices?

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Choosing to bottle-feed my baby is the best choice for my family

Choosing to bottle-feed my baby is the best choice for my family.

I make my decisions with the utmost care so I am well informed of my options. I know my decision to feed my baby formula instead of breast milk is the right one for my baby, my family, and me.

Whether I work outside of the home, produce too little milk, or simply choose to abstain from nursing, I have the right to make that decision for my baby.

I am a wonderful mother, because being a mom is about more than feeding; it's about raising amazing children.

Inappropriate comments from others are easy for me to ignore. The only person responsible for making decisions about my children's well being is me. No one else can determine what needs to be done with my body or inside my home.

My family supports my decision to bottle feed my baby. They love being able to participate in feedings. I see joy in the faces of my relatives when I allow them to help me with the baby.

I am confident that my baby is getting all the necessary nutrients from formula. I have researched different brands and chosen one that best meets my baby's needs.

Just as with nursing, I hold my baby close and share a special bond during feeding. The bond I share with my baby is just as strong as any other mom's.

Today, I choose to bottle feed my baby because it is the best fit for my family. Every decision I make is in the baby's best interest, and this is just one of the many good decisions I make each day.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Am I confident in my ability to make decisions for my family? 2. How can I tune out criticism about my choices? 3. Where can I find support and meet other moms who choose to abstain from nursing?

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

An outgoing attitude is my antidote to boredom

Boredom stems from an insatiable search for pleasure. I have created a better reason for living than simply pursuing pleasure. An attitude of gratitude stops me from indulging in a pity party of boredom and propels me to get outside of myself.

Maintaining an outgoing personality ensures me a life filled with excitement. I am always on the go, whether it is helping someone, volunteering, exercising, or seeking a new experience.

I am outgoing because there is always something to do. Boredom is caused by unwillingness to do anything, rather than the absence of something to do. I awaken my inner child and follow my passions to discover new activities that fulfill me.

I have the courage to reject fear and embrace change. I see change as an opportunity to embark on a new adventure. Change keeps my life interesting.

When I feel boredom creeping up, I shake it off by taking a walk to clear my head. I make a mental list of things I want to do that I can choose from when I find myself at a standstill. I reflect on the items on my list and turn them into goals.

I am taking the lead in maintaining an active life. It is up to me to get myself up and moving so I can have a fulfilling life. It is up to me to find out what I like to do and do it. It is up to me to keep myself engaged.

Today, I choose to take responsibility for my own entertainment by having an outgoing personality.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What can I do when I feel bored? 2. Who is an outgoing friend that I can call when I need to go out? 3. How can I turn change into an adventure?

Sunday, September 5, 2010

9 Easy Tips for Strengthening Your Fading Memory

Although you may think that a fading memory begins in old age, there are techniques you can use throughout your life to keep your memory in peak operating condition. An excellent memory can be to your advantage in personal, educational, social, business, and financial situations.

Considering the many benefits that a sharp memory can bring you, it's wise to seek out ways to strengthen it at any age.

Try some of these easy tips to boost your memory:

1. Maintain a healthy lifestyle. You may not relate your general health to memory; however, if you stay healthy you'll be helping your memory in the process.

* Eating nutritious foods will ensure that you're getting plenty of vitamins that enable healthy brain function and reduce free radicals, which can impair memory, as well.

* Exercise increases blood flow to the brain and keeps oxygen levels up. These higher oxygen levels keep you alert and provide you with more clarity in your thinking.

2. Pay better attention. You can improve your memory simply by being more aware of what is going on around you. When someone is talking to you, give them your full attention. You'll have a better chance at encoding their words to long-term memory.

3. Use mnemonic devices. Mnemonic devices can be used to help you remember certain bits of information by relating the facts to an easy-to-remember image, word, tune, or phrase.

* For example, the classic sentence, "Every Good Boy Does Fine," has been used for generations to help people remember the lines of the treble clef (EGBDF) for sheet music.

* Relating the knowledge you want to remember to jokes or rhymes works well, too. These are fun ways to remember facts.

4. Get organized. Have a daily planner to help you organize your day. A good planner reminds you of important events while keeping you from having to juggle too many things in your mind all at once. Too much juggling can result in "scatterbrained" thinking.

* Also pay attention to the way you organize your life. You won't have to remember where you left your keys if you always leave them in the same spot. A great rule to follow is, "A place for everything and everything in its place."

5. Keep your stress level down. Too much stress can make your thinking erratic and cause challenges with your memory. Take steps to calm yourself down and you'll find that you're thinking with a clearer head.

* Deep breathing exercises, meditating, reading, physical workouts, relaxing music, and pleasurable hobbies are all great stress-busters. Do something that relaxes you every day.

6. Play mind teasers and games. These games keep your brain, including your memory, sharp and active. Puzzles also help with attention and concentration. Crossword puzzles, Sudoku puzzles, trivia games, and even video games all exercise your mind.

7. Get enough sleep. If you're sleep-deprived, you're more likely to suffer from poor memory. Go to bed and get up in the morning at established times to help your body form a natural day-to-night rhythm. Relax before bedtime to help you transition into a sound sleep.

8. Rehearse information. If there's something in particular that you're trying to study or remember, try rehearsal techniques. It's a great way to ensure that information is passing into your long-term memory. With rehearsal, you just repeat and study information over and over until you remember it easily.

9. Visualize concepts. Images can be very powerful. If you're a visual person, you might find visualizing more helpful than some of the other techniques. Visual people remember better if they see what they need to remember. It will usually help you to see information in a picture, chart, or graph.

When you stay proactive with these memory techniques, you'll be sharp for a long time to come. Exercise your memory daily and it will serve you well in all aspects of your life!

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Marketing Yourself: Looking for a Job

Looking for a job - a tough feat in any field - can be even harder when the economy is down. Good marketing can set you apart from other candidates if you know how to properly promote yourself.

You might have better skills and knowledge than other candidates in your field, but unfortunately, if they have more effective marketing, they might have a better shot at the job. The system is not always fair, but if you play your cards right, you can end up landing any job you want.

Doing Your Homework

When you're looking for a job, be organized and prepared. Do your homework first. Determine the specific jobs that you'd like and whether or not you currently have the proper skill set to apply.

If you don't have the skills, perhaps you can find a program where you can get specialized training to develop them. If you do have the required skills, start working on your resume in order to highlight the specific skills you have that pertain to the job you want.

In addition, do your research on the company where you're applying. Potential employers will be impressed with your knowledge of the company and know that you're serious about getting the job.

Marketing Tips

When it comes to marketing yourself, there are specific things you can do to make yourself more attractive to the company. Some of them are subtler than others.

Try using the following tips to effectively promote yourself:

1. Tweak your resume. Your resume is clearly vital when it comes to landing a job. It's a simple piece of paper that describes what you've done in order to prepare for the specific job. Customize your resume to include items that are specific to the job for which you're applying. In fact, employers prefer that you keep it simple and on topic.

2. Come dressed for success. Always pay close attention to what you wear when you're making a first impression. It says a lot about you. Dressing for success increases your chances of landing the job.

3. Be ready to nail the interview. At the interview, smile and stay as relaxed as possible. You'll want to appear friendly as well as knowledgeable in your field.

4. Remember that you're always a student. Be humble, without selling yourself short, when you're looking for a job. There's always something else you could add to your skill set to compliment your current skills. Being able to easily cross train might set you apart from your competition.

5. Check your own Internet sources. "Google" yourself to check on what public information appears on the net about you. If there's something you might not want potential employers to see, find out if you can have it removed.

6. Come prepared to share new ideas. Before the interview, practice thinking on your feet and presenting new ideas with a friend. Then, you'll be ready for any opportunity at the interview to share these ideas. When you do, it'll show that you're willing to go the extra mile and think creatively.

7. Explain what sets you apart. If you're given the chance, explain what sets you apart from your competition. It's a great way to really sell yourself to the employer.

A big key to landing the job you desire is having a positive attitude along with the proper training. Stay organized, calm, and persistent and you'll go far.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Tips To Become More Assertive in Social Situations

Assertiveness is one of those things that some people seem to be naturally good at, while others simply aren't. If you're not, people can tell you to "just be more assertive" till they're blue in the face, but it won't help. Why? Because they're not telling you how to go about it!

Once you find out specific things you can do to help you make the change to greater assertiveness, and then practice them, you'll find it easier and easier to be bold and assert yourself in social situations.

There are many different character traits that can contribute to assertiveness. You can work on strengthening any one of them or a few of them if you feel that you're lacking in any categories.

Some people believe that people are just the way they are and it should just be accepted. It's true to a certain extent, but you'd be surprised by how much you can change when you're truly dedicated. If you want to be more assertive, you can be, regardless of others' opinions.

Use these strategies to help yourself become more assertive:

1. Believe in yourself. Self-confidence and believing in yourself are very important traits. Strengthening your confidence in yourself and your abilities can bring you greater assertiveness too.

* A good way to start building your self-confidence is by reflecting on your talents and skills. Write them down. You may be surprised at the length of your list! Feel good about these gifts and do what you can to further develop them.


2. Learn how to deal with your frustrations. If you keep everything bottled inside, you might end up exploding in someone's face. People won't see this as assertiveness; more likely, they'll see it as arrogance or aggression. When you're frustrated, voice your opinion as soon as you can while the situation is at hand and work out your differences together.

3. Be calm and clear. Staying calm and talking clearly will convey assertiveness and self-confidence in social situations. It's a great rule to remember if you're ever feeling negatively in a situation. Remember to tell yourself to be calm first and then concentrate on your clarity.

4. Overcome your fears. Fears might be holding you back from being assertive. You may even fear being in social situations. Face your fears head on by placing yourself in situations you fear. Start with smaller manifestations of your fears and move up to larger ones step by step.

5. Express your needs. It might be hard to break out of your shell the first time, but eventually people will listen to what you have to say. Let them get used to the fact that you're speaking up and showing that you have wants, needs, and desires just like anyone else.

6. Pay attention to body language. Give extra attention to your body language when you practice being assertive. People will know that it's a front if your shoulders are hunched or your arms are crossed. You might even have a nervous tick. Open up your shoulders and relax your body before you begin speaking.

While developing your assertiveness, give yourself time to achieve change. Be patient and strong. It might be tough at first, but you'll get the hang of it the more you practice these strategies. Soon, assertiveness will come naturally to you!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Sudden Fear: How to Cope With Panic Attacks

If you suffer from panic attacks, then you understand the sheer fear that you face in the moment of an attack. Feeling powerless to stop it is one of the worst parts. Even if you despair that this constraint has become a part of you, take heart.

You can learn to cope with, reduce, alleviate, and perhaps even eliminate your panic attacks for good! There are specific actions steps you can take to help you overcome this challenge.

Where Do You Start?

You can learn a lot about panic attacks simply by studying why they occur. You can also try to discover the root of your panic attacks. Keep in mind that you should always seek help from your physician.

Panic exists because it's a way for you to deal with a threatening situation. When you're in danger, your body releases adrenaline that enables you to think and move quickly in order to escape the threat.

Panic attacks occur when you find yourself reacting to a situation with feelings of panic, even though there may not be an actual threat. In your mind, though, the threat is real.

For example, if something terrifying once happened to you at the mall, future trips can still set off a panic attack, even if there are no threats. Alternatively, you can even feel panic in certain situations without being able to figure out exactly why.

Whether you're consciously aware of the reasons for your panic attacks or not, it's good to know that there are still strategies that can help you overcome them. It also may help for you to know that panic attacks generally cause you no physical harm. When a panic attack strikes, you will get through it and things will return to normal soon.

How to Cope During a Panic Attack

Once an attack is taking place, you might feel powerless. Instead of allowing your panicked thoughts to take over, focus on your body and methods of relaxation. Deep breaths can counteract the panic since a panicked state forces you to take quick, shallow breaths.

Why You Shouldn't Avoid Panic-Inducing Situations

It's natural to want to simply avoid situations where you might feel panicked. However, this usually isn't the best solution. For instance, you can't avoid elevators, crowds, or the doctor's office forever.

If you tell yourself that you can't do these things because they'll give you a panic attack, you're just reinforcing the behavior. Rather than helping yourself prevent your panic attacks, you're more likely going to feed the fear and make the attacks even stronger. Although it's difficult, when you continue to engage in activities that may induce panic, you're actually giving yourself many opportunities to overcome your challenges.

Natural Methods for Coping with Panic

There are natural methods you can use and changes you can make to your routine that have the power to ease anxiety and panic.

Meditation is one helpful method. Meditating can help you become more relaxed and in tune with your body and mind. These benefits can aid in understanding, preventing, and coping with your panic.

Lifestyle changes include the use of regular exercise. Most of us don't realize that exercise is not all about helping your body; it has some great power in balancing your mind too! You'll also be doing yourself a favor if you pay attention to things like your diet and sleeping habits. All these factors can have an effect on your panic attacks.

With research, self-reflection, and anti-panic strategies such as those mentioned here, you can begin to get a handle on your panic attacks. Know that you can have power over them! With knowledge and practice, you can be free of the fear of another panic attack.

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Seven Tips To Accepting Your Inner Self

Accepting your inner self and your situation in life can be a difficult task. Do you tend to be more accepting of others' mistakes than your own? If so, you're being too hard on yourself! Those people aren't better than you! You were created with a unique set of talents that no one else has. Plus, everyone makes mistakes. We're only human!

Becoming more accepting of yourself and loving yourself for the fine person that you really are can lead you to greater happiness and a more fulfilling life.

Here are some excellent techniques you can use to help you better accept yourself:

1. Focus on your positive qualities. Even though self-improvement is a good thing, it's important that you identify and focus on your positive qualities, rather than concentrating on the qualities you feel negatively about.

* Maintaining this positive focus will not only help you better accept yourself, but it'll also make it easier for you to attain your goals by utilizing your talents to boost yourself forward.


2. Consciously prevent negative thinking patterns. Negative thinking can really snowball fast if you don't get ahead of it. It's okay to be in a bad mood every once in awhile and have some negative thoughts; it happens to everyone. The trick is in learning how to push those negative thoughts aside and replace them with something positive.

* Replace your negative thoughts about yourself with affirmations. Affirmations are positive statements that affirm your positive qualities and help bring out the best in you. You can find affirmations in bookstores and on websites, or you can write your own.

* If you believe in yourself, you can do it. It's really that simple.

3. Accept your imperfections. Another part of being human is having some imperfections. Instead of dwelling on the things you can't change, accept them for what they are. Making the best of your life starts with accepting your imperfections.

4. Use positive self-talk. Positive self-talk can help you achieve great things and change the way you think about yourself. Make it a point to give sincere compliments to yourself.

* Compliment yourself for the good things about your looks, your positive qualities, and every time you do something right. Do this each and every day until it becomes a habit.

5. Disregard what other people might think about your decisions. You'll never make everyone else happy. If you try, you'll soon discover that, not only will other people still be unhappy, but you'll also be exhausted and unhappy yourself.

* Make your own decisions according to your priorities and be confident that you've done what is right for you.

6. Avoid worrying. Worrying will never help your situation. Rather than wasting your time by being engulfed in fear, take action to do what you can to make the situation better. If there's nothing you can do to change it, focus on moving forward in other ways.

7. Try your best and accept that you've done what you could. Do your best every day and be proud of yourself for your efforts. Let go of any negative thoughts, such as being angry with yourself for not being able to accomplish an impossible feat.

* Even when you haven't done your best, find a way to forgive yourself. Move on and commit to trying harder next time.

In changing the way you think about yourself, you'll also change the way you see the world. Every day opens up new opportunities for you, and by utilizing positive thinking, you can make a real difference!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

How To Talk To Your Family

When everyone in your l ife communicates well, things generally run smoothly. However, sometimes it can be tough to maintain a good connection, even with those closest to you.

Communication is a two-way street, and you'll see the most success when everyone involved makes an effort to communicate effectively. Even when others miss the boat, though, strengthening your own communication skills will go a long way toward beneficial interactions.

Keep these tips in mind as you strengthen your communication skills:

1. Be flexible and open. Even if it's not the most convenient time for you, strive to be there for your loved ones when they want to talk. It's important for them to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings with you.

2. When it's possible, prepare what you're going to say. Sometimes communication issues happen just because you don't say what you mean. This happens more often than you think! Thinking it through before you speak ensures that you send the message you intend.

* Even in the middle of a conversation, take a moment to plan what you're going to say next before you say it.

3. Be a good listener. Learning how to effectively listen is a full fifty percent of the battle. You can be great at speaking, but if you don't understand others, the skill may be useless.

* You can strengthen your listening skills by just paying closer attention when others are speaking. Allow them to finish their thoughts before you speak again.

4. Avoid jumping to conclusions. Jumping to conclusions leads to unnecessary complications. You might be assuming something that isn't even true. It's important to find out your loved ones' true thoughts and feelings and clarify yours as well. Knowing the whole story can save people from getting hurt by incorrect assumptions, yourself included.

5. Be understanding. Sometimes you'll hold yourself and your loved ones to higher standards than you expect from others. Remember: no one is perfect, including you. If someone makes a mistake, explain to them that it's okay.

* Avoid holding a grudge because it will only cloud your communication efforts with negativity and tension.

6. Be willing to compromise. Strive for the wisdom to recognize the difference between what you need out of a situation and what you want. The best solutions allow everyone to walk away from the situation satisfied with the outcome.

7. Practice your skills. Good communication is a skill that you can always strengthen. Relationships between people are ever changing and there's always something new that you can learn.

* Be willing to continue learning how to better communicate with your loved ones. This exploration may enable your relationships to go that much deeper because you care enough to keep trying.

Remember that you should never be afraid to speak up when you're talking with your loved ones. They're not mind readers, and they deserve to know how you're feeling! Conversely, it's also important to be understanding and receptive to their feelings. Good communication can strengthen your bonds for a lifetime.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Expanding Your Comfort Zone - Simple Effective Strategies

It can be a good thing when you find your comfort zone. Everyone likes a place where they can feel safe. However, sometimes your comfort zone will limit you. You might be missing out on opportunities without even knowing that you're missing out!

Expanding your comfort zone can bring a whole new world of excitement, passion, experiences, friends, financial opportunities, and knowledge into your life. To take advantage of these benefits, the first thing you must do is embrace change.

Life is full of changes. When you get into the habit of finding the good in every change, you become more comfortable with the idea of change itself, and look forward to the new adventures that lie ahead. With this mindset, you're ready, willing, and able to expand your comfort zone.

Try these effective techniques to help you break free of the limits of your comfort zone:

1. Think positive thoughts. When you're living in a bubble, and that bubble breaks, you'll most likely feel fear. When you're scared, focus on thinking more positive thoughts. Instead of thinking about what could go wrong, think about what could go right. Have faith that this new opportunity will bring you to a new, comforting place.

2. Use your imagination. By only staying where you're familiar, you're actually limiting your imagination. Starting from now, try to exercise your mind. Stretch it to envision doing new things you never considered before.

* Try some new activities. Invariably, you'll find some you enjoy and these will be added to your repertoire of experiences you find comfortable, thus expanding your comfort zone.

3. Take small steps. One of the most important tips when it comes to expanding your comfort zone is to tread lightly. If you expect too much too soon, you may shock yourself and go running back to your bubble. Feel free to take even the smallest of steps.

* Each step forward is just that: a step forward. These steps will add up to something big as long as you keep trying.

4. Do something new. You don't have to do anything terribly exciting or even have any expectations about the results. Just do something you've never done before. Even trying a new restaurant or taking a different route to work will help. Do something differently each day, and soon you'll be looking forward to your daily adventure!

5. Accept help. If you ask your friends and family for help, they'll likely be there for you. Have them help you if you're feeling uncomfortable in a new situation. They might just alleviate your stress while you're expanding your comfort zone.

6. Meet new people. Be open to accepting new friends and acquaintances. Strike up casual conversations with people around you. You never know when you might be able to form a new relationship with someone. Your new friends will help you expand your comfort zone by bringing their friends and new ideas into your life.

Remember that there are no set rules. Your main goal is to be happy with your life. If you're happy in your comfort zone, you don't have to expand it aggressively against your wishes. However, if staying within your own bubble may cause you regret because of missed opportunities, then try these easy strategies to help you grab all the gusto you can out of life!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Reducing Stress With All Natural Remedies

Did you know you can reduce stress with all natural remedies? Stress is a normal part of everyday life. In fact, there are certain types of stress that are actually motivating and good for you. However, there are also bad types of stress that can build up and take over your life if you let it.

There are many treatment options to choose from when it comes to stress reduction. Turning to the help of natural remedies is a healthy choice, and many times it'll help you to get to the root of your stress. When you know what causes your stress, you'll be better able to recognize it and stop it from happening again in the future.

Here are some natural remedies that can help you reduce your stress:

1. Deep breathing techniques. Breathing deeply can work wonders when it comes to stress reduction. Your breathing is a connection between your conscious mind and the unconscious. When you're stressed, you take more shallow and short breaths. Counteract the stress, relax your body, and calm your mind with long, deep breaths.

2. Herbal remedies. Stress-reducing herbs include valerian, passionflower, and kava-kava. These remedies double as remedies for problems, such as insomnia and anxiety, because stress is the most common cause of these ailments.

3. Watch what you put into your body. What you eat on a daily basis can directly affect the way you feel and have an impact on your stress levels. It's important to eat nutritiously, maintain a balanced diet, and limit harmful substances such as caffeine, especially later on in the day.

4. Make extra time for yourself. When you're stressed, you may feel like there's just not enough time in the day to accomplish everything that you'd like. This might lead you to cut out doing things for yourself even though they're vitally important. Go out of your way to make extra time for yourself to reduce your stress and rejuvenate your mind and body.

5. Take a warm bath. A warm bath is a great natural way to leave the stresses of the day behind you. You can increase your bath's stress-reducing benefits by experimenting with different aromatherapies through soaps, bath oils, or candles.

6. Break your routine with a relaxing activity. Try something new and bring in some excitement by breaking your routine to pursue a relaxing activity. It's a great way to relieve your stress and breathe new life into a dull day.

7. Maintain an exercise routine. Exercise is an excellent way to combat stress. It keeps your body fit and your brain active. Exercise also releases endorphins in the brain, which energize you and reduce your stress levels.

Try to get creative when it comes to discovering new ways to combat stress. Your main goal is to avoid getting caught up in your stress. Rather than letting stress run your life, make the decision to be the one in charge. You'll soon be able to recognize when negative stress is taking over so you can turn to one of your natural remedies to banish it from your life for good!

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Keeping a Positive Outlook During Bad Times

Are you facing a difficult challenge? It's comforting to know that you can get through tough times while maintaining a positive outlook throughout. When you get in better touch with yourself and understand the ups and downs of life, it makes it easier for you to persevere.

When you believe in yourself, you can go farther than you've ever imagined. So your first step is to believe that you're capable of having a positive outlook. Your firm belief in yourself will help banish negative thoughts that try to plague your thinking during trying times.

The Ups and Downs of Life

You already know that life is made up of many ups and downs. When things are going great, you almost hope that it lasts forever. When things aren't going so well, it's sometimes hard to even imagine life getting better again.

If you're going through a particularly trying time, it's important to take time to grieve. No one expects you to bounce back immediately, and perhaps you'll be a changed person. However, you can, and will, have good times again!

When the time is right, start working towards a better future and you'll be able to experience more "ups" in life. If you're open to this, you'll be well on your way to a positive outlook.

Believing in Yourself

Believing in yourself is vital to a happy life. Some may say it's trite to use phrases like: "If you can dream it, you can do it," but as it turns out, the sentiment is true. Don't put limits on yourself. If something is possible, then you can achieve it with a strong driving force!

During trying times, you might not believe that you're capable of moving beyond the situation. This is the time when you need to muster up your strength and take a good look at yourself. Discover your inner strength and rely on it.

Using Affirmations

Affirmations are a great way to stay positive if you open yourself up to them. You can use these short, positive statements to communicate with your unconscious mind.

Write your own affirmations or find a book or website with affirmations that are appropriate for your situation. It's a great way to remind yourself of your strength and good qualities. Practice every day to get the best results.

Recognizing Your True Self

Both positive and negative events bring you opportunities to get in touch with your true self. Trying times are challenges, and if you're poised with a positive attitude, you can discover more about yourself and your capabilities.

Difficult times can give you the ability to get in touch with your values. Seek the deeper meaning of it all, and always search for the silver lining. Even the toughest and most depressing situations can be opportunities for learning, as long as you open yourself to see the lesson.

Learning for the Future

Once you've learned a life lesson by going through a particularly difficult situation, you can use that knowledge to help you cope with future obstacles. But instead of dwelling on the negative, focus on enjoying your life in the moment in order to maintain the positive outlook and happiness you deserve.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

How to Keep Yourself in the NOW

You may have already heard about the many benefits of present moment thinking, or as I like to call it, the "NOW"

When you live in the present, the many stressors of the mind do not bother you.

However, if you've ever tried to stay in the present for a long period of time, you'll notice that your brain automatically travels to your past and future. This is to be expected as you transition to focusing on the present moment.

It Takes Practice!

Even some of the most skilled present moment thinkers encounter times when they have difficulty concentrating. With practice, it becomes easier, but there will always be times here and there when you get distracted.

When you first begin to think in the present moment, you may be tempted to feel impatient and frustrated. Frustration will only make things worse and is the opposite of what you've set out to accomplish. Instead, look at it as a good thing. If you're frustrated, then you're noticing when your mind starts to wander and you can return it back to the present.

Starting With Meditation

Meditation is based on the notion of being in the present moment. Therefore, it's an excellent practice to pick up in your life. Try to make time to do it every day. Try to meditate around the same time each day, too, for the best results.

You can look up traditional methods of meditation, or you can simply discover your own practice. It's best to get yourself into a comfortable seated position and then begin following your breath. Take slow, deep breaths, one at a time, because you're in no rush.

Meditating allows you to practice staying in the present moment during a time that you're alone and avoiding distractions. You'll be able to notice the times when your mind is really active versus the times when you're calmer. Once you've mastered this awareness, you can begin to apply your skills to other portions of your day to expand the amount of time that you spend in the present moment.

Making Time for Yourself

It sounds simple enough, but one of the most difficult obstacles to present moment thinking seems to be just making time for you.

You might tell yourself that it's time to meditate, but your mind nags you to accomplish one more chore before bedtime. Before you know it, you feel as if you don't have any additional time for yourself. This is when you need to put your foot down and make it a priority.

Practicing During Everyday Life

The next step is to practice while you're going through the motions of everyday life. Of course, you'll want to reference your past and future during certain times. It's to be expected; however, make an effort to avoid letting your mind dwell outside the present. Make your decisions using the past and future as necessary, and then move on with your life in the present.

After you've mastered some meditation techniques, try meditating during those times of the day when you're doing something on autopilot. Instead of allowing your mind to wander, stay present as you engage in activities like brushing your teeth or waiting for the coffee to be ready.

As you continue to practice, you'll notice a vast amount of opportunities where you can stay in the present moment. Seize these opportunities whenever you can and enjoy the many benefits!

Saturday, August 7, 2010

How to Deal with Difficult Family Members

While some families may look perfect from the outside, the truth is that perfection is hardly ever the case. Whether you rarely encounter challenges with family members, or suffer daily as personalities collide, the good news is that there are strategies you can use to effectively get past these difficulties

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If you're constantly stressed out when dealing with certain family members, it's important to realize that you ultimately can't change them. The best thing you can do for yourself is to work on your own issues and help yourself to better deal with situations that may arise. This way you'll be happier in the long run.

Acquiring Understanding

Everyone can benefit from strengthening their understanding skills. Understanding is actually a difficult skill to acquire because it may not be easy to put yourself into another's shoes. After all, if you don't feel a certain way, how can you really know what it feels like?

One fact that can help you develop a greater understanding is that different people have different needs. Sometimes, when you're trying to get your needs met, you may end up ignoring the needs of someone else. Ask yourself if your conflicts arise from differing needs.

When you face a disagreement with a family member, instead of reacting in anger, take a step back to evaluate the situation. See if you can figure out why the other person feels the way they do.

Maybe you're worldlier, and the other person just hasn't encountered all of the life lessons that you've experienced. Perhaps you aren't aware of what they've gone through, and you could give them the benefit of the doubt.

It's tough to be understanding when you know you're the one reacting with logic and kindness. In this case, you may feel that you must prove yourself right and keep fighting until the other person understands your perspective. However, when you've mastered the art of understanding, you'll realize when you should stop and just try to find a peace between you.

Keeping the Peace

A part of understanding is learning how to keep the peace. If you're dealing with a difficult family member that you only see once in awhile, it should be relatively easy for you to find that peace temporarily. If you go into the situation with a positive mindset, you'll be better able to put your differences aside for the duration of the visit.

If a situation arises where you would ordinarily react in anger, remember to take some deep breaths before you say anything. If you're too tempted to fight back, remove yourself from the situation altogether and go outside to calm yourself.

It's more difficult to keep the peace when you're having conflicts with a family member whom you see with regularity. In fact, these challenges may be causing you a great deal of stress. Instead of continuing to fight about who's right, it may be best to just agree to disagree and understand that the other person has a different perspective.

You can also achieve peace by compromising. For example, if a family member gets what they want one time, a fair compromise may be that you get your way the next time. The best compromises are win-win solutions where everyone walks away satisfied. Be creative in seeking agreeable solutions and you may find that your conflicts no longer exist.

Sometimes you may feel like nothing can be done to mend your relationship with the difficult person. Many times, though, once you start trying to resolve the situation peacefully, your difficult family members begin to make an effort as well. After all, you are family, and the ties that bind you together are stronger than the forces that try to pull you apart!

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

The Unstoppable Power of Your Subconscious Mind

Whether you like it or not, your subconscious mind is the boss of you. Even when you make a conscious decision to go after something you want, it's your subconscious that determines whether you'll take consistent action to get it!

Once you understand how your subconscious works, you can be in touch with yourself on a deep level. You'll have the keys to living an abundant, fulfilling life, and all you'll need to do is unlock that door.

What is the Subconscious Mind?

Your mind is similar to an iceberg. The conscious mind is like the part of the iceberg that you can see above the surface. But the bulk of the mind - the subconscious - is below the surface where you can't see.

There are certain thoughts and processes that go on inside your mind that you may not be aware of on a conscious level, such as beliefs, instincts, and memories. Everything you've ever seen or heard is sitting somewhere in your subconscious, affecting your current thoughts, decisions, and actions.

Communicating with the subconscious mind is a popular topic in the realms of self-help and psychoanalysis. This is because getting to the core of your beliefs by tapping into the subconscious is the fastest way to implement desired changes in your life.

The Power of Beliefs

Your subconscious mind contains a vast amount of information. It's more than your conscious mind could ever handle. Sometimes you might just have a "feeling" about something and then find out that the "feeling" was right on target. In many cases, it's your subconscious mind that sends you such signals.

Surely you've heard, "If you believe it, you can do it." This truism is a fact because of the great power of your subconscious. A belief can light a fire under you and enable you to do things that you never consciously thought were possible.

This is why just believing in the power of the subconscious mind can allow you to better communicate with it.

The alternative is to continue following base instincts. Following your instincts can be a good thing, but what if one of your instincts is a fear of public places? It would be in your best interest to learn how to communicate with yourself.

Beyond Belief

Believing in the power of your subconscious is the first step to living the life you desire. When you do, you can move on with your self-help ventures and personal development plans. Surely you have talents you'd like to further develop, positive qualities you'd like to strengthen, and challenges you'd like to overcome. You can do all these things by tapping into your subconscious.

You can even use your communications with the subconscious mind to correct larger issues, like fears, or eliminate negative habits, like smoking or emotional eating. When you get to the core of an issue in your subconscious, you can change it. The possibilities are endless!

How Do You Communicate With Your Subconscious Mind?

There are several techniques you can use to effectively communicate with your subconscious mind and enable the changes you desire.

One popular method is the use of hypnosis. You can either employ the services of a counselor trained in hypnosis or use self-hypnosis techniques. You can even find CDs and videos that will guide you completely through a hypnosis session.

Under hypnosis, rather than being asleep, you're in a state of heightened awareness. Many of the inhibitions of your conscious mind will subside while the subconscious comes to the forefront. When you're in this state, you're open to suggestions. If you give yourself positive suggestions, you'll make positive progress.

You can also communicate with the subconscious by consistently reading, listening to recordings of positive mantras, and repeating affirmations. Not only can you use these positive statements to affirm and bring out the best in you, but you can also replace negative thinking and doubt with positive images and beliefs. Check your local bookstore and online for a plethora of affirmation resources.

Just remain aware of your innermost thoughts and you'll be better able to keep in touch with your subconscious. Always be truthful with yourself, follow your heart, and most important of all, have a firm belief in yourself!

Monday, August 2, 2010

Attitude Adjustments The Natural Way

If you find that you often slip into negative moods, you're probably thinking that an attitude adjustment might help you. After all, a positive attitude not only helps you stay happy, but also enables you to accomplish your hopes and dreams.

One of the best ways to improve your overall attitude is to take every opportunity to say positive things to yourself. What you communicate to yourself through words, thoughts, and images are interpreted on a deeper level than you may realize.

When you engage in positive self-talk, you can connect with yourself on a subconscious level. This is also true of negative self-talk. If you've found it difficult to break a circle of negativity, it's because you're feeling negatively on a subconscious level. Positive self-talk can help turn this negativity around.

How You Can Engage In Positive Self Talk

The first step in adopting a more upbeat attitude is to notice when you're using negativity. There might be times when you're being negative without even realizing you're doing it.

In the beginning, spend a day or two just being an active observer of your overall speech and thoughts. How do you talk about yourself? How often do you have a negative thought about yourself? Do you mentally beat yourself up when you make a mistake?

After you discover negativity in the way you're talking to yourself, it's time to take a step to correct it. First, try eliminating the negative. You can also try using different manners of speech with yourself. Instead of being so hard on yourself, give yourself the benefit of the doubt and be truthful.

You can then focus on replacing negativity with positive things you want to hear. In a situation where you would've ordinarily been negative, take the time to think of something you should be praised for instead.

You can even use a journal to record ideas of positive things you can say to yourself. Refer to it often and then use those ideas to combat negative thoughts.

You'll also benefit from using more positive speech in general, even when you're not talking in reference to yourself. Get in the habit of seeing the positive side of every situation. Seek solutions to your challenges and find the silver lining. These actions will help you focus on positive aspects.

Using Positive Self Talk Every Day

Once you get a hang of it, you can begin to bring positive self-talk into your life every single day. At the end of the day, compare how you feel to one of your previous days without positive self-talk.

Consciously think positive thoughts during as many moments as you can, even the ones that seem mundane, like when you're brushing your teeth. You can seize that moment and make the most of it!

When you feel overcome with stress or fear, force yourself to take a step back and reevaluate your thinking. Tell yourself to relax and remind yourself that you'll get through it no matter what.

How Positive Self Talk Can Shift Your Attitude

Positive self-talk can shift your attitude by changing your beliefs on a subconscious level. If you focus on a certain belief long enough, eventually the message will get through.

The benefits of a possible attitude are endless. You'll enjoy having less stress in your life and more drive to achieve. You'll feel happier. And it all starts with positive self-talk.

While you're working on improving your attitude, look to affirmations for help. For example, if you truly want to have a great day, tell yourself that you're already having a great day and believe it. Affirming the positive welcomes even more positive things into your life. With all this positivity, at some time or another, you'll realize that your negative attitudes are gone for good!